lately I've been leaning in to the idea that every relationship I have is a reflection upon what I need to heal in myself. Or rather, my REACTIONS to every relationship I have. So when I am annoyed or triggered by something a friend does or says, I am taking a step back and seeing what that means about me. It's been very transformative.
This is so true. I experienced that with my ex husband. As I went through my own healing , I just couldn’t put up with what I had been putting with anymore. The energy shift comes from more self worth and love .
I appreciate your message here, Darcy, as it is relatable. As my therapist once said, some people are here for a season, some people are here for a reason, and other people are meant for a lifetime. I’ve experienced the loss of a number of relationships due to what you described. My journey has been lonely. I often feel like a lone wolf navigating the world on my own. I realize I'm never entirely alone — I'm connected to spirit. If other people don't understand, it’s okay. I used to need to explain everything to everyone because I wanted so much to be understood and accepted. I felt like doing cartwheels, somersaults, twisting my body in contortions — working very hard to be understood. I had to let go of that because it was causing too much pain.
Ironically, that effort was blocking me from connecting with others who were right in front of me. It felt like they were waiting in the wings for me to stop the nonsense.
Now, I'm walking the path. This was made clear when I did ketamine. I'm walking a spiritual path. I'm committed to that life. If others want to accompany me or want to hang out for a while at a campsite and want to roast marshmallows, dance, and tell stories, that sounds great. I've decided to live life on my terms. Surrender was a necessary part of it — but it also involves a lot of grieving for the life I thought I had, for the person I thought I was.
Thank you for reading and sharing your insights here Anna 🙏
It sounds like your ketamine experience provided a lot of clarity for you. I’m happy you were able to overcome the blocks that were preventing you from true, genuine connection. That’s definitely something we all need. Sending lots of love your way 💝
Powerful read as usual.I feel this. So difficult to lose some people who we thought we meant to go through with us, only to realize we've outgrown them.
Thank you Holly! It’s definitely a difficult process and I’ve learned that growth requires us to have the courage to let go of who and what no longer resonates with us. And holding on will only prolong the inevitable anyways.
Very relatable. I’m in the stage of healing that you’re describing where people are leaving my life. I am letting them go and knowing that better things are coming.
It can be a difficult place to be in the healing journey, but also necessary. It sounds like you’re doing exactly what you need to do in order to get to the other side. Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to share your experience. I appreciate you 🙏😊
Important topic to write about, and one we don’t touch on enough. I feel like no one prepares us for the shifts we get to navigate in our relationships, the deeper we heal.
You’re right about that! It’s one of those things that took me by surprise until I began to understand why it was happening. It’s not a bad thing, even though it feels like it at first. And it’s necessary in order to keep growing and evolving. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. Thank you Alexandra 😊🙏
What a great article about this part of a healing journey. It's true, we lose relationships. It hurts, but ultimately brings others with the same frequency.
Beautiful! I couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you for writing about your experience with how healing changes your relationships. I think it’s something a lot of us can relate to! 💕
Thank you Lily! I think a lot of people can relate for sure. And looking at it from an energetic perspective where losing people simply means we are no longer on the same frequency really helped me a lot and saved me from over analyzing those situations 🙏😊
When this happens, I reflect on words a former spiritual advisor said to me during a time when my relationships were fading and I was very lonely. She said, "Yes, you are feeling lonely, but are you becoming closer to God ( Higher Source)?" Yes, I was! This is one relationship that will always be there and continue to grow.
Thank you Jane! Moving ahead and letting go is definitely challenging. We just have to remember that what’s ahead of us will be more aligned with the person we are becoming 🙏💝
@In the And @Kelly Burns-Stanning @Aaron Waddell thank you for restacking 🙏😊
lately I've been leaning in to the idea that every relationship I have is a reflection upon what I need to heal in myself. Or rather, my REACTIONS to every relationship I have. So when I am annoyed or triggered by something a friend does or says, I am taking a step back and seeing what that means about me. It's been very transformative.
This is such a great way to gain the self awareness needed to make transformative changes! Thank you for reading and sharing your insights 🙏😊
This is so true. I experienced that with my ex husband. As I went through my own healing , I just couldn’t put up with what I had been putting with anymore. The energy shift comes from more self worth and love .
It’s amazing how those shifts change our perspective on things. I appreciate you reading and taking the time to share your experience Sylvia 🙏😊
I appreciate your message here, Darcy, as it is relatable. As my therapist once said, some people are here for a season, some people are here for a reason, and other people are meant for a lifetime. I’ve experienced the loss of a number of relationships due to what you described. My journey has been lonely. I often feel like a lone wolf navigating the world on my own. I realize I'm never entirely alone — I'm connected to spirit. If other people don't understand, it’s okay. I used to need to explain everything to everyone because I wanted so much to be understood and accepted. I felt like doing cartwheels, somersaults, twisting my body in contortions — working very hard to be understood. I had to let go of that because it was causing too much pain.
Ironically, that effort was blocking me from connecting with others who were right in front of me. It felt like they were waiting in the wings for me to stop the nonsense.
Now, I'm walking the path. This was made clear when I did ketamine. I'm walking a spiritual path. I'm committed to that life. If others want to accompany me or want to hang out for a while at a campsite and want to roast marshmallows, dance, and tell stories, that sounds great. I've decided to live life on my terms. Surrender was a necessary part of it — but it also involves a lot of grieving for the life I thought I had, for the person I thought I was.
Thank you for reading and sharing your insights here Anna 🙏
It sounds like your ketamine experience provided a lot of clarity for you. I’m happy you were able to overcome the blocks that were preventing you from true, genuine connection. That’s definitely something we all need. Sending lots of love your way 💝
Thanks Darcy for considering my perspective. It’s nice connecting with you.
It’s nice connecting with you as well 😊
Love this article, Darcy. It’s really accurate in my opinion, it mirrors a lot of what I’ve noticed too (said more eloquently).
The higher you vibe, the smaller your tribe.
Thank you Mike, and that statement is so true! I’m glad my words resonated with you 😊
Powerful read as usual.I feel this. So difficult to lose some people who we thought we meant to go through with us, only to realize we've outgrown them.
Thank you Holly! It’s definitely a difficult process and I’ve learned that growth requires us to have the courage to let go of who and what no longer resonates with us. And holding on will only prolong the inevitable anyways.
This one was a hard one for me to except as well, every day gets a little easier.
Sending some love your way Jessica 💝💕
Thank you! 😊
Very relatable. I’m in the stage of healing that you’re describing where people are leaving my life. I am letting them go and knowing that better things are coming.
It can be a difficult place to be in the healing journey, but also necessary. It sounds like you’re doing exactly what you need to do in order to get to the other side. Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to share your experience. I appreciate you 🙏😊
Important topic to write about, and one we don’t touch on enough. I feel like no one prepares us for the shifts we get to navigate in our relationships, the deeper we heal.
You’re right about that! It’s one of those things that took me by surprise until I began to understand why it was happening. It’s not a bad thing, even though it feels like it at first. And it’s necessary in order to keep growing and evolving. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. Thank you Alexandra 😊🙏
What a great article about this part of a healing journey. It's true, we lose relationships. It hurts, but ultimately brings others with the same frequency.
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment 🙏😊
You are so right about that! Frequency is everything and will bring the people into our lives that are meant to be in the next chapter with us 💝❤️🩹
What a great way to start my day! A perfect pairing with Mr Mozart🎶
Thank you for your wisdom. I wish I had this available back in 2016/17.
Thank you Xavier! I appreciate you taking the time to read and share your thoughts 🙏💝
You’re welcome Darcy. Although it may be treason for us to chat on the web with Trump’s trade war raging now😂
Beautiful! I couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you for writing about your experience with how healing changes your relationships. I think it’s something a lot of us can relate to! 💕
Thank you Lily! I think a lot of people can relate for sure. And looking at it from an energetic perspective where losing people simply means we are no longer on the same frequency really helped me a lot and saved me from over analyzing those situations 🙏😊
Yes! It does take the guilt and over analyzing out of it. 👍🏻
When this happens, I reflect on words a former spiritual advisor said to me during a time when my relationships were fading and I was very lonely. She said, "Yes, you are feeling lonely, but are you becoming closer to God ( Higher Source)?" Yes, I was! This is one relationship that will always be there and continue to grow.
Some wonderful words of wisdom there. I love that! Thank you for reading and sharing your wisdom 🙏😊
Great article. I agree loneliness for comes from feeling misunderstood from myself that is. Moving ahead and letting go is challenging
Thank you Jane! Moving ahead and letting go is definitely challenging. We just have to remember that what’s ahead of us will be more aligned with the person we are becoming 🙏💝
It's OK to step back and get back up too. It's not a straight line for sure.